愛情練習曲：未婚伴侶在情緒取向伴侶諮商的經驗研究

The Experiences of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Unmarried Couples

10.3966/156092512019120071005

孫頌賢(Sung-Hsien Sun)

未婚伴侶 ； 情緒取向伴侶諮商 ； emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT) ； unmarried couples

應用心理研究

71期（2019 / 12 / 01）

137 - 181

繁體中文

本研究欲探討未婚伴侶在情緒取向伴侶諮商（EFT）中的經驗，以瞭解未婚伴侶主觀知覺EFT的效果，以及對治療行為的知覺。共計6對未婚伴侶各自接受6次EFT晤談，並在諮商中期與結束時進行事後訪談，以瞭解未婚伴侶在該諮商歷程中的經驗。研究結果分為兩部分，第一，未婚伴侶知覺到EFT對改善關係品質的效果，包括：1.經驗性的重新理解彼此；2.覺察負向互動循環並嘗試避開；3.增加面對衝突時的情緒容涵度；4.透過原生家庭成長經驗的分享而增進理解。第二，未婚伴侶對EFT治療行為的知覺，包括，1.替代性安全堡壘；2.帶著未知且自在的探問引導；3.諮商師具善意的解讀；4.有系統且白話的詮釋與摘要；5.治療師引導直接對話。EFT對未婚伴侶而言，是一種「具安全感」、「經驗性」、「擴展性」、「學習性」、「引導性」的諮商經驗。最後討論在伴侶諮商實務與未來研究上的建議。

This study examines the experiences of unmarried couples in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT) to understand the effect of unmarried couples' subjective perception of treatment and perception of treatment behavior to the counselor. A total of 6 pairs of unmarried couples each received 6 sessions of EFT interviews. In the middle and at the end of the couples therapy, post-interviews were conducted to understand the experiences of the unmarried couples in the counseling process. The results of the study show that EFT is a counseling experience that underscores ＂safety,＂ ＂empiricism,＂ ＂extensibility,＂ ＂learning,＂ and ＂guidance＂ for unmarried partners. Finally, best practices of couples therapy and future research recommendations are discussed.

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